The moment I realized I wasn’t listening to myself
Last week taught me an invaluable lesson, and I want to share it vulnerably in case it supports you too ✨
For the past few years, I’ve been on a deep deconditioning journey. For me, that looks like:
– tuning into my inner compass
– letting my days unfold at my natural rhythm
– creating from flow instead of force
– questioning business “rules”
– building in a way that feels aligned with the life I’m actually living
Without sacrificing what matters.
Without pushing.
Without operating from fear or scarcity.
But from alignment and confidence.
I spent a long time feeling into my newest offering — how it would feel for me, and how it would feel for the people inside it. I checked in daily to make sure the timing was right and that it was coming from my heart, not from grasping or pressure. From owning my strengths and offering them in a way I genuinely believe can support other business owners.
And then… ChatGPT got involved.
Listen, I understand AI. I see its strengths and its risks. I use it sparingly and thoughtfully. I even remind clients regularly: take everything it says with a grain of salt. It’s very good at sounding like it gets you — but it doesn’t. No one understands you or your clients better than you do.
Here’s where I went off course:
I let AI plan my launch strategy.
I’ve never done a traditional launch before, and now I know why. It took a colleague pointing out how compressed my timeline was for me to realize I hadn’t actually checked in with myself about it. I knew it was tight, but I justified it because of travel and an attachment to a specific date.
What I missed was this:
I stopped honoring my own pace.
I followed a structure that wasn’t built for me — and didn’t notice how misaligned it was until things started breaking.
Cue: tech issues, things not working, and a launch that didn’t unfold the way I intended.
The gift?
I can now clearly see where I don’t want to be spending my energy anymore. I’ve already reached out for support to fix the tech side of things because I’m done trying to wear every hat. My work is to support business owners in doing what they do best — not drowning in backend problem-solving.
And I also had to lovingly call myself out.
I created a timeline that didn’t make sense for my nervous system… and then got attached to it.
That’s the lesson.
That’s the magic.
The wisdom lives in our oversights and our mistakes — if we’re willing to see them.
So the pivot was simple:
I let go of the original timeline with grace.
Not as failure.
As discernment.
The practice of listening to ourselves is a journey. We can be really good at it… until we’re not. That’s why we need community, ongoing support, and honest conversations about the tiny shifts that actually free us from the ways we’ve been taught to operate.
We’ve practiced the unsupportive habits.
Now we practice the supportive ones — until they become normal.
That’s what my Guided program is about.
We do this work together, in community, with one-on-one support to help you untangle the specific places you’ve been pushing instead of trusting.
Because you don’t need to force your way into the life or business you want.
You need to remember how to move in your own rhythm.
So I’ve extended enrollment by one week — now closing on 2/2 — to give my nervous system room to breathe and to step out of a mad dash I didn’t actually want to be in.
We begin 2/3.
If this resonates, I’d love to have you with us.
